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by PegasusWing from Port Saint John

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I was taking a lunch break while doing an art show when I noticed a lovely, young woman really interested in my portraits.  I ditched the lunch and went to talk to her.

 She had never seen anything like my work, so I explained the process of painting portraits on porcelain.

She seemed more than casually interested and asked if I could work from pictures or if I had to have a live model.  I told her that I prefer to take my own pictures and work from them, then I do not have the pressure of an uncomfortable model or have to deal with copyright infringements.

She told me that she had recently lost her two year old son.  She had pictures of him around the house, but wanted something really special. She was getting glassey eyed, and I was choked up. 

Finally she reached down to her purse and said that she had some pictures with her.  As she leaned down she confided, "He died under anesthesia when I took him to have him spaded."

I understand that people love their animals, but they are not people.  Had she begun with a story about losing her pet, I would have felt for her, but she was oblivious to what she actually communicated.

I thought that I covered my irritation well and sent her to another artist. 

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signal12 read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 12:03 PM

I wouldnt bring my business to you....

People that cant have children have pets, a special cat, bird, dog, ect. These become their kids.. Im glad to see you covered your irratation well.. If someone messes with one of my dogs, there would be hell to pay. They may never find the body... LOL

PegasusWing read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 1:13 PM

I love children, but do not really care for animals in my house.
My daughter was allergic, so the issue was not even a consideration.
As a teen, I loved horses and riding.
I respect that people love their animals.
I have nothing for contempt for those who get an animal because of the image it projects, then neglects or abuses that animal.
In retrospect, I thought that the story had a bit of humor.
Sorry that you didn't enjoy it.

signal12 read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 2:01 PM

I did think it was it was cute in a twisted way. Not everyone likes animals or can have them, for reasons you state..

Your ending sentence, points out the fact that you where irratated at the fact it was an animal. Was that because you thought it was a child? only to find out it wasn't.?

Hawkeye read my blog
May 10, 2008 | 2:30 PM

Hell..Until you mentioned that it was an animal I figured she was talking about her husband of two years..LMAO..

Seriously though..I have had pets ALL of my life..EACH one was special and I Loved them ALL and they ARE a PART of the Family..
SOMETIMES I EVEN wonder WHO it is that belongs to WHOM..I have one NOW and he's a PURE Joy..

However..I would NEVER confuse my Dog,, Cat,, Horse,, Parrot,, Fish,, Wildebeast or ANY other animal with a child..Not MY child and cartainly not your's either..

I've ACTUALLY heard people say that ,,given the choice between saving a puppy or a baby THEY'D save the puppy..Far as I'm concerned,,THAT'S sick...

Your restraint is as admirable as your irritation is understandable...

DeborahLakeHelen read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 3:20 PM

Pegasus, as many animals as I have, have had, have loved, and lost, I have, and never would, refer to one as "my child." I have cried, and at times cried for days and even weeks, and even cried months later over the loss of a particular animal. I have nursed, sat up all night with, sometimes for weeks on end, and then lost anyway, kittens, puppies, dogs, horses, and squirrels. As special as they are, and as much as I love them, I still don't understand how someone could refer to an animal as their child, the way that woman did to you. Good for you, for maintaining your composure, and sending her on her CRAZY way!

DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 6:00 PM

I don't understand. Do you mean you cannot paint portraits of animals from photos?
Or you can, but won't?

boogster read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 6:00 PM

Pegasus why wouldn't you paint a picture of that persons pet? I think I am a little confused, if it were a child that died you would paint a picture for them, but since it was a pet you wouldn't?

DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 6:08 PM

OK. The dictionary defines portrait as "a picture of a person." so never mind.

I thought it was a picture of anything, but I am no artist. LOL!

DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 6:12 PM

Hey, can you paint the boogster from his avatar photo?

BrendaG read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 8:06 PM

Ah yes Frank but you can do portraits of pets, or at least I do. =) I don't understand not doing a pet portrait, some people never have children or can't have children and their pets become their children.

To be quite honest I prefer working with pets rather then people any day of the week, and after dealing with unruly brats during the work week, I would much rather deal with a pet then someone's unruly brat.

BrendaG read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 8:08 PM

Unless of course the pet is a snake or a spider....

I am thinking maybe pegasus can't paint pets as well as people? That would be the onl reason I would turn away work!

And then I think about me doing weddings... I don't like to do them, but they do help pay the bills!

DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 10:17 PM

Well, that is what I thought also Brenda. A true artist should be able to paint any living thing, and especially from photos.

But portrait specifically means a person. If an artist is specializing in one given area, like persons, and that is all they want to do, why not.

Andy Wharhol painted a can of soup.

It is worth a fortune. It was not a portrait.

What it boils down to here, is should Peg have painted the animal picture on porcelain?

If she has the talent to do so, I would say yes.

DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 10:20 PM

I never turn down work........

DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
May 10, 2008 | 10:26 PM

And just think how much the grieving "mother" would have been willing to pay..........

pLOp25 read my blog
May 10, 2008 | 10:35 PM

Pegasus, I love all animals. I know how people can get close to their pets as I have. I even get close to the cardinals, squirells and other wild life I feed in my yard. Believe me you did nothing wrong. You directed this person in the right direction the same way as a doctor in a hospital would have done if this person brought her dog to him before he died. You covered your irritation and sent this person in the right direction. You're OK

Sageman read my blog
May 11, 2008 | 12:13 AM

It's a little twisted but at the same time people become attached. My mom put her dog of 12 years to sleep this week and I seriously can only remember a few times hearing her so distraught. Pet's have a huge impact on people and I think the main thing here is that you don't connect with animals the way some people do.

I know a lot of people who have said that their pets are like children to them, though I don't really understand how they can relate. I do know that loss of any kind hurts regardless of who or what it is when you love them.

You did the right thing, no one is obligated to be sympathetic and if you really don't feel the same way then so be it. It's a free country. At least you were compassionate enough to listen to them.

Captain_Jim read my blog view my photos
May 11, 2008 | 9:02 AM

I would have sent her on her way too. Probably for the same reason you did. People are what they are. If you know from the get-go that someone is twisting the truth or intentionally misleading you then you could expect to see that behavior again, only this time it could be when it's time to pay for the services you've delivered.

Life is too short to deal with headaches. Wish them the best but send them on their way.

TAllen read my blog view my photos
May 11, 2008 | 9:19 AM

I get that you didn't want to paint a picture of the dog but I don't get why you were irritated or the humor in this story. What reason would she have for "intentionally misleading you"? Clearly she loved this pet enough to contemplate spending a small fortune on your services or thought you good enough to honor her "son".

oldvamp read my blog view my photos
May 11, 2008 | 11:01 AM

Does it really matter who or what this person wanted a momento of? She was pouring her heart out to you and you turned your back to her. I'm sorry, but if I were in her place, I'd be extremely offended.

RNC08 read my blog view my photos
May 11, 2008 | 11:39 AM

The premise of this is that you are judging what is important and how another should feel about something. Is it your job to judge what and how others love ? I do not try to tell others what to love , and I can see a dark inverse to this because it also tells me that you will judge another for not loving a human enough to satisfy your “standards” ....this tells me more about how you build your self esteem than it does about actual standards, you find yourself a better person because you find fault in this person.

thewizard read my blog view my photos
May 11, 2008 | 12:11 PM

Right now I'm nursing a few bruised ribs after being thrown by 'my guy,' an 18 hand Belgians wbom I rescued.

I've actually thought if getting a portrait of us, for all of the joy we've brought each other.

I wouldn't call him 'my son,' but I've seen people call themselves their 'horse's mom' or dad many times.

My dogs drive me crazy sometimes, but I'd never abandon them because, let's face it, their family.

I think you're going to find that, no matter how you want to define it, love is an equal opportunity employer.

PegasusWing read my blog view my photos
May 11, 2008 | 12:22 PM

Sorry, I prefer to paint women and children.
I did a beautiful watercolor portrait of a young dancer.
I found her exquisite. The painting is still on my wall.
At one point, I asked her if she would pose for some photos for me.
She did and I got to know her better.
She was unpleasant, arrogant, superior to all, but still beautiful.
In my subsequent portraits she looked uglier and uglier.
I guess I only paint well, what I love. Kitchens and photo developing are my bread and butter, but my art is for my soul.
My cousin was offended when I painted a portrait of her daughter, but not her son.
I think that I might have done the woman's dog if she told me how much she loved her dog and wanted him done by me.
It is hard to explain; When I do a portrait, especially on porcelain, it takes weeks. I form almost an intimate connection with the subject, so I need to work with only positive thoughts toward the subject.
I know car mechanics who only work on high end sports cars and refuse work on economy cars. He is an artist, phenomenally good, and chooses his own work.
I just have to feel good about what I am painting. I can't make my self paint what I don't like.
I can't even paint walls, because it is dull, boring work that I take no pride in and can't get it done fast enough.
Nobody feels that way about anything?

RNC08 read my blog view my photos
May 11, 2008 | 4:54 PM

No that is fine , I only work on what I want to ...it just sounded like you where looking down on this woman for wanting to commemorate her personal feelings for this animal. Not that to you it is a project that you can't/see/feel/do . ...I have pictures of almost every car truck and motorcycle I have ever owned but I don't have any pictures around of my sisters brothers or any of the woman I have dated and lived with over the past 25 years...anyone care to make any “judgments” about me ? LOL
PS I know for a fact that most woman out there are thinking : how can someone love a machine more than friends /family/lovers and when and if you ask your boyfriend husband he will in fact spend several seconds contemplating one of his first cars before lying and telling you I am terrible !

TAllen read my blog view my photos
May 11, 2008 | 11:46 PM

Peg ~ Sorry a true artist finds beauty in every thing they see. Its perception and what sets the artist apart from the rest. The idea that you can allow personal "judgements" to affect your work tells me that you don't have a true artist eye. Since you prefer to only paint women and children perhaps you should hang a sign to that effect when showing your work.

RNC ~ I am one woman that understands how you can love a machine more than other things and I don't think that makes you terrible at all. I would say your a man who prefers a simple life with no complications, one who enjoys his freedom and one who treasures adventure. How close am I??

PegasusWing read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 5:24 PM

The poor woman really didn't even realize that she communicated to me a dead two year toddler.
At the time, I was doubting that I could handle painting a dead child.
I was irritated because she had me grieving with her, her dead toddler.
I understand that people love their animals, but they are not the same as children to me, anyway.
I do not find beauty in everything.
When I begin to paint, I envision a masterpiece.
I never begin a painting of just anything that will haul in a few bucks.
Actually I was surprised that so many thought that I should have to paint anything someone else wants.
I always see bad artists who make a lot of money on bad paintings of pets.
Sorry.
I understood my neighbor who loved repairing quality sports cars so much that I would never have considered asking him to look at my Plymouth Duster had I a problem with it.
He had a Ph.D. in psyche, but left that career for car repair.
The guy was obsessive compulsive and was respected in Atlanta as a master mechanic with the only shop to bring your sports car.
He used a stethoscope to listen to the engine.
I respected where his heart was.

boogster read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 10:15 PM

so I guess a protrait of me is out of the question????????


That's OK peg I'm pretty on the inside anyways, I am a fraid if you were to paint a picture of the true me it might just look like a bunch of guts.

PegasusWing read my blog view my photos
May 13, 2008 | 3:27 PM

Boogster, it took me a bit to get by the portrait of you that you already have posted!
Hugs

DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
May 13, 2008 | 9:38 PM

Peg, I respect that, and mentioned it earlier here.
As doctors specialize in everything from feet to nose and throat, and lawyers specialize in everything from divorce to personal injury, why shouldn't you specialize in what YOU want to do?

I guess a portrait of boogy is out of the question................

DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
May 13, 2008 | 9:40 PM

Too bad. I would love to see him in that hat you are wearing.

DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
May 13, 2008 | 9:41 PM

And nothing else.

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I am a portrait artist, kitchen designer, former teacher, and MOM of two incredible young adults. I feel that oil companies are destroying the country. I would like to see congress pass much higher milage requirements for all vehicles of locomotion. I would like to see the rail systems improve and ultimately reduce the 18 wheelers on the road. We need more alternative energy, and not ethanol; solar, wind, water. I would like to see illegal invaders go home. I would like to see all our men and women in the military come home. There is no reason Iraqi should not pay for their own defense. I would like to see it cost businesses to "outsource". I'd like to eliminate Capital Hill's Golden Fleece Pension and see all of the men and women on Capital Hill receive the same social security and health insurance that we get, then, just maybe they would get serious about saving it.

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